So, you conscientiously attended a pregnancy course, read all the books on baby care, and even practiced breastfeeding. But can any of you really prepare for the first days of parenting when your baby is no longer calm and unmistakable “wormwood” in the stomach than a living, fragile and wild natural force? The answer is – no. Reality is often much better or worse than you expected, and most often it is both good and bad. No one is prepared for the lack of sleep and the hormonal changes brought by the first week. It’s a unique and killer combination.
You may think that other moms with it are easier to wear, but do not be fooled. They just play good. Most will look at their newborns at a certain time and think: Oh no! And what now? Motherhood can be scary, but that feeling is temporary. It’s amazing how fast you can learn to trust your instincts. Baby care is not exactly quantum physics. After all, as much as you may have felt as a trainee, the baby will certainly not notice it. Anyway, small help will be good for you in those first minutes, hours and days. So let’s go …
How will your newborn baby look?
Newborns come in all shapes, sizes and shades. Your bedding for nine months supplied your baby with oxygen, so at the first moments, as it is used to self-breathing and triggers its circulation, it may be somewhat purple, red or bluish-gray. It must be slippery and wet from fertile water. Many babies are born with bright eyes that will darken during the first year as melanin levels rise.
Do not worry if your baby looks like a boxer who has just come out of the ring. During the passage through the birth canal baby can look squashed and swollen, and will look even worse if is pulled by forceps or vacuum. The skull’s baby is made of surfaces that move when needed and can be distorted during the birth – often takes the form of a cone. These irregularities had to be corrected within a few days. Babies born with an imperial cut (C-section) usually look nicer because they avoided big pushing!
When baby is born, she will be tied to you with your umbilical cord and placenta. The apprentice will tighten and cut the cord, and at the place where it should be the baby’s navel, there will be a bloody, gelatinous stump that will dry out and fall off during the next week.
What is happening after the birth?
While birth is unpredictable, the procedures after it are exactly determined, though not necessarily always carried out in the same order. Nurse will dry the baby and wrap it in the towel. Then she will weigh, measure and examine, count her fingers on her hands and feet, look at her eyes, ears, mouth and palate and check motion and breathing. This is called the APGAR test.
Finally, she will give you to hold your baby. If you had a C-section, it may be a problem, so your partner can do that while the sewing is over.
Babies first needs
Newborns are usually in full alert and it will be looking for you with their eyes wide open. Though his eyes are blurred, he will recognize your voice and smell. It is important to touch skin, especially if you intend to breastfeed. Some babies will almost dominate the chest, but if the birth was stressful, they might not want to eat right away. Getting used to the outside world can take some time. After about an hour, most babies will immerse themselves in a long, deep sleep and sleep over much of the next 24 hours, though you may have to feed them every three hours. Also, most infants will have the first chair called meconium within 12 hours. It is a scent-free poop that will occasionally go out in the first few days.
What is happening after the birth?
A sudden arrival of a child can be a shock and the feelings you have expected are often pushed into another plan for exhaustion and relief. Some moms fall in love with your baby at first glance, but that’s not always the case. Your baby is still an alien and the connection can happen slowly.
If you have vaginal delivery and need sewing, you will do it as soon as possible with local anesthesia.
When the baby comes out, you will also need to throw the placenta. Most women receive an injection of Syntocin or Syntometry to stimulate the cervix and accelerate the process. If you get an injection, the placenta will go out within five to ten minutes after giving birth, and if not, the ejection may take up to about half an hour.
The placenta does not hurt. In fact, you will be so preoccupied with your baby that you will not even notice what has happened until you see a large, violet mass of blood vessels. If you have a cesarean cut, the drip will give you the same medicine and the placenta will come out, after which your doctor will seal you. In both cases the nurse and the doctor will check the placenta to make sure everything is out.
When is it all over?
An apprentice usually solves paperworks while mom, dad and baby meet. You will probably still look like a pregnant woman, though the belly will lose its firmness until the skin recovers. How long it will take depends on how your skin has been stretched. But count for at least a few weeks.
After about an hour, you will be moved to the post-birth unit by lying on a wheelchair. Women who had a C-section will be moved in bed. They will measure your blood pressure and comfortably accommodate you. As you clean your uterus, you will have a bloody vaginal discharge called lochia, resembling a strong period. It can take up to six weeks.
Before they let you from the Hospital
Before you leave the hospital, the pediatrician will look at the baby in detail: her eyes, mouth and palate, back and spine, hips, skin and diaper contents. Also, will check your baby’s reflexes:
Sucking and rooting reflex (searching with his mouth) – These are reflexes that help in feeding. If you touch a baby’s cheek, it will automatically turn to that side and try to suck.
MOROOV REFLEKS – Reflex of fright – A newborn inflexibly widenes his hands and feet when unexpected sound, movement, or flash of light.
Craving – A newborn will cling tightly to whatever you put on his palm. It is a survival reflex that allows the child to hold tight when in danger.
Plantar and palmar reflexes – Baby’s toes and fingers on their hands will curl when you touch their foot or palm.
Walking – If you are placing the newborn upright with their feet on the ground, it will raise and lower the legs as if to walk.
Diving – Babies can keep the breath under water (do not worry, they will not check this reflex).
If they were sewing you, they will also check your seams. The results of all these reviews will be recorded in the dispatch letter that you will receive at the exit from the hospital. You may start to notice that you are no longer at the center of attention as you were during your pregnancy. From now on, all eyes will be directed to your baby. Welcome to parenting.
The moment came. Here’s what you can expect when you get home, with tips on how to take care of the newborn:
The doctors finally let you out of the hospital. This is the moment you eagerly awaited – the opportunity to be the family for the first time. You are the boss. Then why are you so scared?
Newcomers often think about everything that will happen during delivery and childbirth, but very little about what follows. And then suddenly they have this tiny person who is completely dependent on them.
Your life will be completely changed. So far, you probably had those days when you stayed in bed for illness. But in the future you will not have a break, although you are still recovering from birth and you miss sleep. You’re thrown straight into a 24-hour child care – and that’s probably the most important thing you’ll ever do. The feeling that everything has fallen on your back can shake you.
How to bring your baby home?
It is best to drive newborn in the car seat facing the rear of the vehicle – so you have provided him with a very important support of the head and neck. Choose some that is well-padded; Many have special supports that prevent the head from moving. Although the baby will probably fall asleep during the ride and you will want to take her home in the seat and let her sleep, the experts advise you not to do so. Sleeping in an upright position increases the risk of sudden infant death, so remove and place the baby in her bed.
How much will my newborn sleep?
A lot – between 16 and 19 hours a day. It’s safest for your baby to sleep in a crib, a baby cot or a basket in the same room with you for the first six months. The baby should sleep on the back, uncovered heads, at a temperature between 18 ° C and 21 ° C. In any case, you can buy a room thermometer, but if it’s comfortable in your room, the temperature is probably fine.
How will I feed my baby?
The first few days of your breast will produce yellowish liquid, not real milk. It is called colostrum and contains exactly what fits your baby’s needs: many antibodies and proteins. The newborn does not need much fluid because its stomach is the size of a walnut.
About three days the milk will flow, and your breasts can become hard and sensitive. Even if you have decided to keep your baby fed on a bottle, you should put your baby on your chest for the benefit of breast milk at that early stage.
Newborns must be fed every two to three hours, usually 10 to 20 minutes on each breast. It’s a lot of time so it’s advisable to find a comfortable position. It will help you if you have a table in which you can put a drink for yourself, magazines and phone. The baby should have a breast full mouth (not just a nipple), and the neck, back and shoulders should be well supported.
Since the infant usually swallows a lot of air during feeding, it is important to burp after a meal, and sometimes during feeding. Hold it upright on your chest or place it on your knees tilted forward and gently tap it on its back.
How to change diaper?
Most moms have never changed the diaper before, and they do not know what to expect in it. On the first and second day, most of the baby will poop meconium several times. On the third and fourth day it will become greenish color, as baby began to drink and digest milk. By the fifth or sixth day your baby poop should become soft and yellow.
Many babies will cry during changing their diapers. The newborn does not really like dressing and undressing. They hate the feeling of exposure, which can make it difficult to bathe them. When it comes to removing and dressing clothes, give yourself a time; you will soon get used to the baby’s movement and master the handling of tiny hands and legs.
How should I bathe my newborn?
It is not good to bathe every day because the water drains gentle skin. Three to four baths a week will be enough, but it is good to wash the baby’s hands, face and the butt with wool soaked in cooled boiled water every day.
When you want to bathe the baby, security must be in the first place. Put a baby tub on the floor of the living room (where it’s warm) and kneel with it without losing balance. Dip the baby’s feet into the water, and wash the rest of the body with your hand, supporting her head, shoulders and neck. Check the temperature of the water with the thermometer (it should be about 37˚C) or touch it with the inside of your wrist and forearms. Dermatologists do not advise the use of bath products, and for the first few weeks you really do not need anything but hot water. Prepare a soft, warm towel in which you will wrap the baby afterwards.
Should baby go to sleep at a certain time?
It all depends on you. Some moms like to put babies at bedtime at 7 pm to create a certain routine. Some prefer to keep the baby around until they themselves go to sleep. Keep in mind that the newborn can not be spoiled. It does not manipulate you nor does it attempt to deceive you with their crying. The current schedule is not a pattern that you will have to keep up your whole life. In the first days, accept all offers for help. If someone suggests to make you lunch or to go shopping for you, don’t be too proud to accept the offer – be flexible and don’t plan too much. Forget about home works and the outside world. Now you’re meeting your baby, and she teaches everything about you. It’s the beginning of a whole new life for all of you.
How to hold a newborn baby?
Do not be afraid. The baby will immediately let you know if she is uncomfortable or feels insecure. The head must always be well supported. One way to lift it is by keeping it under the hands and supporting the back of the head with your fingers, then turn it so that it lies in your arms. Also, you can lean the baby’s head on your shoulder and hold her bottom with one hand while supporting the upper back with your other hand.